There is haya in all the issues concerning the deen, for haya is part of eeman too, but what I think the sister meant is that having haya does not prevent some one from seeking knowledge in the deen. The Hanafi jurists cite a particular but relevant ruling that if a woman has a wet dream and during the dream, she felt her desires being fulfilled and experiences the same pleasure of sexual climax (like orgasm) but did not ejaculate then she will not have to do ghusl. Yup, the small parts you mentioned I take care of it. If you had a dream in which what was seen was mainly intercourse and no wetness is found upon waking up you are not in a state of major ritual impurity (janaba) and you dont need to perform a ritual bath. Pingback: Parenting Series | Part VIII: Sexual Activities Beyond the Norm What Should We Teach Our Teens | The Sex In Islam. i never masturbate nor even touch my private parts for pleasure or any i just think of a guy in the need of love and suddenly i realize its just fake and try to push away those thoughts from my mind yet some times i find a colorless liquid after that, is ghusl mandatory in this case? Also, she says she would slip away-how is that not passing? (Please keep in mind that female genital area is always wet, and they do not necessarily always have extra discharge upon orgasm, so the matter is not as easy to discriminate as for men). It led to my other question: Can wet dreams in itself mark the onset of a girls puberty (balagha) making her accountable for her religious obligations like fasting and hijab? Keeping this in mind, and inshaAllah for the benefit of all my sisters-in-Islam, I posed these questions to a few sisters I trust, and below is a collated reply from them: 1. I was asked: 1. I would like to know how exactly do you know if you had a wet dream if you dont recall it. Even if they do not attend the sex-Ed class at the school, I can assure you that they will be taught by their fellow students. Just so that some sisters dont get confused, the link to the above fatwa regards to female discharges, seems to have ikhtilaaf over the issueand this matter doesnt seem to be as black and white as described in the fatwa, wAllahu taala alam. But I was still thinking its wet dream so I went to the toilet to check. And is it haram to read romance books that cause you to have sexual thoughts? May Allah ease your heart and help you get through this. When is ghusl required and when is it mustahabb? Required fields are marked *. It helped me clear up so many confusions that I had regarding this particular issue. How do you explain orgasm to your non married daughter? The teachings of Islam do not impose such difficulty on people. I suppose her mother or elder sister or female relative should explain to her. It came multiple times during that period but I ignored them but after a few minutes I fell asleep now I woke up thinking I had a wet dream although I cant remember the dream but I think I felt somehow while sleeping that led to me asking myself if what I felt can be compared to orgasm or not but I remember the dream I had prior to waking up was nothing sexual in nature. May Allah reward your work, amin. I the morning when I woke up I saw a spot of discharge on my liner, it had dryed but it looked like a thin and light yellow discharge. Can it come out in small quantity asin that its wont get to the underwear but just the private part? 4. Assalaamu alaykum. A simple Google search will lead you to many websites. (And I read here that if you are uncertain there is no need for ghusl right). When I wake up from sleep straight after having a wet dream, I am certain that nothing came out of me, whether maniy or madhiy, but because of a great deal of waswaas [whispers from the Shaytaan; persistent intrusive thoughts], I examine the urethral sphincter, as if I can find something small inside it, and I squeeze the penis but nothing comes out, and I think it most likely that this is not maniy. This is the closest that one can get to being sure. Assalamualaikum dear sister Im not even aroused half the time but i have a strong urge to be intimate at times. Even having thought like hugging your future husband and all is also haram? During my discussion with Dr. Lalani, I asked her if a girl could have wet dreams before she has her first menstrual cycle. Sometimes Ive expressed this worry to the girls and apologised. 2.1 if in the same situation I see a wet spot on my underwear, from which I cant distinguish its discharge that breaks wudu or ghusl, just a wet spot, is ghusl compulsory? Those scholars, who support the opinion that wet dreams are an indication of a girl reaching the age of puberty, base their opinion on the signs of male puberty and do not make any distinction between the two genders; they include menstruation as an additional sign for females. Also, do those ejaculations while awake require ghusl because if it did people could end up taking so many ghusls? Some savants state that since a woman's ovum fluid flows back into the vulva, it is better, as a precaution, for her to make ghusl. And some women need a detailed answer! . Also, do not wait until her menstrual cycle starts. I asked some of them to post these questions in the comments anonymously for the benefit of all the readers. Can you please explain this hadith that was mentioned in the article: Allah does not accept the prayer of a menstruating woman [i.e who has gotten her menstruation] unless she wears a veil [khimar]. Many sisters are ignorant of these issues and the rulings to abide by and it is essential that these matters be taught as they concern and affect oru obligations, ex. Just to reiterate, Wet dreams in solitary are natural and not in your control. please clarify . And Allah knows best.
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